The Role of Resourcefulness

Dear Millennial Young Professional,

Your boss (regardless of how implied, expressed or communicated this is) values your resourcefulness. It makes their life easier, and yours. It reflects self-efficacy and self-leadership. Your resourcefulness exhibits your ability to not be overwhelmed by problems. Do everything in your power to develop this soft skill for the benefit of your career, your daily life and your relationships.

Anger, conflict, boundary, time, project, relationship and self-management are illustrations of situations where the ability to be resourceful plays a critical role in problem-solving.

“Resourcefulness is a broad collection of cognitive-behavioral self-control skills that an individual uses to cope with stress and perform healthy behaviors.” (Rosenbaum, 1990Zauszniewski, 2012).

So, what does resourcefulness actually look like?

As a young professional myself, it is my responsibility to take every opportunity to upskill, grow, mature and refine my skill set. To do this, I might seek out mentors in my industry or healthy leaders that are much further ahead than I, to learn from (ladies, I recommend reading Sheryl Sandberg’s book, ‘Lean In’, she covers the topic of mentoring brilliantly). I might ask my boss what areas I could develop in – and then seek out books, read articles or ask how to work on strengthening that area!

Perhaps the situation is less career management, but more a personal issue of being overwhelmed in your personal life around managing your commitments, passions and relationships. Resourcefulness might look like asking for help. This is not asking for help with all your commitments to continue the cycle, but asking for help on how to set healthier boundaries, learning how to say no and perhaps even asking around and finding people who you feel do this well (though, no one does this perfectly!). Resourcefulness may even look like you seeking out counselling to find out why you might find yourself stuck in this pattern (real talk: counselling is a resource and nothing to be ashamed of).

Important note on resourcefulness: growing in humility is key to this skill flourishing. Resourcefulness does not mean you have the ability to solve every problem under the sun (in fact – quite the opposite). It means you need people. You need other people with stronger skills. It means you need resources. Together, collaboratively, you can work towards solving the problem.

YPs, you got this. Keep hustling humbly and being resourceful.

Elyce

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“I”nstagram

Wow.

What has our social-media-crazed world created?

In particular, my thoughts centre around the aggressive focus of physical appearance (of women) on all media platforms- but in particular social media. (Because we all know that’s where the people are!).

Who decided we all have to look a (very) particular way to be deemed as physically acceptable, let alone attractive?

When did it become the norm for everyday-people to feel the need to have plastic surgery to achieve these unattainable beauty standards?

Why has the need for apparent success and beauty become so rampant in the focus of our modern culture?

How do we make a difference in this (ironically intolerant) so-called “tolerant” culture, when voicing these concerns to anyone, feels like screaming with your mouth taped shut?!

Where did we go wrong?

I don’t assume in the slightest, to have all the answers to these questions. Far from it. In fact, I’m mostly just asking them.

Renowned makeup artist Alex Box, wrote a short poem on this exact paradigm:

“HAIR extended
BROWS bladed
CREASE cut
NOSE shaded
LASHES lifted
LIPS injected
IMAGE graded
LOOK at what we have created.”

Of course, there is the ever-probable conclusion we can draw, of the money-motivated marketing behind products and brands to convince the everyday woman aimlessly scrolling through her social media feed -that she needs to have this. And she needs it today. No wait, she needed it yesterday.

But I actually think the reason we don’t see right through this, is because at a deeper level -we don’t know who we really are. We don’t know just how valuable we are. In turn we are endlessly reaching for acceptance from a world which will never fully give it. Expectations that are actually impossible to reach, like a rat stuck on a wheel- feeling that they’re making progress but of course, getting nowhere.

One of the worst symptoms of this perilous trap, is that in order to to try and reach this acceptance, our focus turns inward. “I” am not good enough naturally. How can “I” look better? What do people think of “me?” How many followers do “I” have?

Looking inward is a guaranteed way to misery.

However, looking outward– to bettering the lives of those around us, is fulfilling on numerous levels.

And the most important, in my opinion – is looking upward. Looking to God, our creator. To speak to us directly, of our worth and value. To tell us who we are. We are His. Fearfully and wonderfully made by Him. Loved and adored by Him. And His love and acceptance is absolutely unconditional. Absolutely attainable. (1 John 4:9-11)

Only in this state of knowing who we are, unconditionally loved by God – can we clearly see the perils of the warped expectations that society demands of us.

 

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Hailing from Perth, Lauren currently resides in the Hills of Sydney with her husband Grant. With an innate awareness of her surroundings – she has run an interior styling business for almost a decade and is now also branching out into a long-held passion with a global organisation, Alpha.